The rising divorce rates in Singapore nowadays is a big social issue because it has many detrimental effects on our society. Firstly, it will definitely lead to a decline in birth rates because with less couples around, there will be less babies born. The government is currently trying to change the situation by offering incentives for having babies, namely the Baby Bonus scheme. Under this scheme, couples will get monetary and non-monetary rewards for having children. With divorce rates so high, won't this scheme be useless? Secondly, those couples already with children will have their families broken up as a result of their divorce. The children are the ones who suffer the most, and the long-lasting impact on the children is unthinkable. The children had nothing to do with it, why make them suffer? Is it fair to punish the children because of an adult's folly? I think that is is not fair. Thirdly, it can affect our economy greatly. When couples go through a rough patch in their relationship, their careers will be affected. They will not be as productive with such thoughts on their mind. This leads to a decline in the economy.
In the year 2006, divorce rates hit a record high of 7061. Twenty years ago, the figure was just a measly 2608 annulments. These figures reflect our mentality and mindset. Now, many couples put themselves before the happiness of the family. They would rather forsake their loved ones than suffer together with them. Such is the selfish thinking of young people nowadays. This scenario happening today also reflects what sets of values we possess. This actually shows that we take marriage for granted. In the past, when people took those solemn vows, they meant what they said. Now, people take it as a sentence of empty words, said in a moment of impulse, which they will probably regret for the rest of their life.
It is not going to be easy to tackle this problem, let alone solve it. Hence, I think that the duty lies with the couples themselves to combat this situation. Firstly, the couples need to learn tolerance. Only through learning tolerance can they understand each other more thoroughly. Everyone has flaws, no one is perfect, but learning to look over these flaws is what makes the bond between couples strong. If they learn to "give-and-take", these numbers which we are seeing will surely see a sharp decline. Secondly, couples need to learn forgiveness. Everyone makes mistakes, even more so in relationships. Therefore, forgiveness is a key virtue which couples must possess. If you cannot stand even the slightest mistakes of your partner, how would you cope if he really screws up? The answer is you would be unable to cope, and go for the ultimatum - a divorce. Lastly, and most importantly, sacrifice is needed in a relationship. If you are able to sacrifice your luxuries for others' well being, no one can fault you at all. It is the most important value because if you learn sacrifice, tolerance and forgiveness is not needed. This is so because there will then be nothing for your partner to be irate about. Hence, eliminating conflict between the two.
In conclusion, I think that what couples need to do is to tolerate, forgive, and sacrifice for a relationship to work properly. These are the few easy steps required to solve the problem.
By Daniel Low (22)
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In the year 2006, divorce rates hit a record high of 7061. Twenty years ago, the figure was just a measly 2608 annulments. These figures reflect our mentality and mindset. Now, many couples put themselves before the happiness of the family. They would rather forsake their loved ones than suffer together with them. Such is the selfish thinking of young people nowadays. This scenario happening today also reflects what sets of values we possess. This actually shows that we take marriage for granted. In the past, when people took those solemn vows, they meant what they said. Now, people take it as a sentence of empty words, said in a moment of impulse, which they will probably regret for the rest of their life.
It is not going to be easy to tackle this problem, let alone solve it. Hence, I think that the duty lies with the couples themselves to combat this situation. Firstly, the couples need to learn tolerance. Only through learning tolerance can they understand each other more thoroughly. Everyone has flaws, no one is perfect, but learning to look over these flaws is what makes the bond between couples strong. If they learn to "give-and-take", these numbers which we are seeing will surely see a sharp decline. Secondly, couples need to learn forgiveness. Everyone makes mistakes, even more so in relationships. Therefore, forgiveness is a key virtue which couples must possess. If you cannot stand even the slightest mistakes of your partner, how would you cope if he really screws up? The answer is you would be unable to cope, and go for the ultimatum - a divorce. Lastly, and most importantly, sacrifice is needed in a relationship. If you are able to sacrifice your luxuries for others' well being, no one can fault you at all. It is the most important value because if you learn sacrifice, tolerance and forgiveness is not needed. This is so because there will then be nothing for your partner to be irate about. Hence, eliminating conflict between the two.
In conclusion, I think that what couples need to do is to tolerate, forgive, and sacrifice for a relationship to work properly. These are the few easy steps required to solve the problem.
By Daniel Low (22)
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1 comment:
This is an issue not easy to handle, by one who is still young and inexperienced. As such many of your statements are rather judgemental and lacking in real-life understanding.
Still, in taking the stand against divorce, you have to be careful to use a sensitive tone of voice, so as to win the reader to agree with you.
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